بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيْمِ
The following is post is taken from respected Hadhrat’s bayan on the introduction of Ma-aarif-E-Mathnawi by Shaikh-ul-Arab Wal Ajam Arifbillah Hazrat-e-Aqdas Maulana Shah Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Saheb (rahimahullah)
ہمارا کام ہر ملنے والے سے حق تعالی شانہ کی محبت کا غم بیان کرنا ہے
Hamaara kaam har milne waale se Haqq Ta’ala Shanuhu ki mahabbat ka gham bayaan karna hai
‘Our job is to express the Gham (the grief and the sadness) of the Love of Allah to every person we meet.’
He mentions a very important point here: one is he says, “whoever we meet, our job is to tell him about the Gham of the Love of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala…”
This should become everyone’s job to express the Gham of the Love of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala to everyone; in other words, to talk to everyone about Allah. It is our job, to put in front of the people. We cannot do more than that. We cannot force anyone to accept what we say.
This is something we always have to keep in mind.
Our job is to present the message of Haqq, (reality). If they will not accept, then we will not force them because Hidaayat is in Allah’s Hands. The Ambiyaa Alaihimussalaam could not force as well as the Sayyidul Ambiyaa, the leader and master of all the Ambiyaa Alaihimussalaam, Nabi e Kareem Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. All he could do was present the message. He too could not force anyone to accept the message. That is why until the end of Abu Talib’s life his Chacha (uncle) he was making the effort for him to accept Islam. But Abu Taalib did not accept. Due to the Gham (sadness) that Nabi e Kareem Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam had, Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala revealed an Aayat in Suratul Qasas;
إِنَّكَ لَا تَهْدِي مَنْ أَحْبَبْتَ وَلَٰكِنَّ اللَّهَ يَهْدِي مَنْ يَشَاءُ
You cannot guide whom you want. Allah is the One Who will guide whom He wants.
If this is the message for him, all the more it is the message for the entire Ummat. Many people try to force the matter and issue onto people. This is the mistake which many of us make in the Josh (zeal) for people to accept and change their lives and start doing good. We force things on people and insist so much thinking that person is going to accept. Many times, we go over the limit in insisting and forcing people, instead of simply presenting the message. We think, we are doing good but we do not realize the harm we are causing. We are actually pushing people away from Deen. We are actually putting the seed of hatred into the hearts of people for Deen. People do not like to be forced no matter what the case is and who it is, especially in the Zamana (times) we are living in.
If we are going to force and insist so much on people with regards to Deen, it is going to have an adverse effect. I personally know of people who have gone far away from Deen. Someone was insisting and forcing them which chased them away. They said, “we do not want this when we are being forced. Someone is nagging us constantly.” It becomes suffocating for that person. You are not allowing them space to understand and realize that which is right and wrong. You are constantly breathing down the neck of a person insisting him to do something or for example, coming to the Majlis. We present the message regarding, “there is a Majlis here. Inshallah, you will benefit.” This is what is talked about and not anything more than that (like): “You have to come. What are you doing on Saturday afternoon? Are you free? You are just sitting at home wasting your time. Just come.” Forcing someone this way is not right. We just present the message. We do not force anyone to go anywhere or do anything. We will also not force anyone to go to the Musjid. We will present the message, “look this is the reality. We need to go to the Musjid. It is important for us. These are the benefits, this is the importance, this is the Hukm, it is Wajib, etc.” We are not going to forcefully drag a person to the Musjid. Nabi Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam never did that. Who are we to do that?
So we will not do that.
You might succeed in dragging the person to the Musjid once. Out of shame and embarrassment, he is going to come with you. But believe me, that is the last time you are going to see him ever in your life. When he is going to see you coming from a distance, he is going to change his direction, “if this man sees me, he is going to start forcing me.”
What was the result, good or bad? Benefit or harm?
It is all about Deen ki Samaj (deep understanding of Deen). Deen is one thing. The deep understanding of Deen is another thing regarding conducting ourselves, how to invite people, how to tell people. We should not be over insistent regarding anything. Our job is to present the message, that is it.
~Hadhrat Maulana Aarif Umar (Daamat Barakaatuhum)
*Taken from Flame of Love Part 18 (29th February 2020)